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Shawn’s Story

I Get It…I Really Do!

Picture this……

Sydney, Australia living in an apartment looking over the water at Chinaman’s beach and just came back from a trip to Vietnam. I was a travel agent at the time and I absolutely loved the perks and the benefits! I had won this trip and was so excited to go!

Being a Travel Agent was great but there was something in me that said, “I really need something else in my life.” I don’t think I can do this travel agent thing forever.

I wanted something more. I wanted to give back to other humans!

That trip to Vietnam really changed me.

While reflecting on that trip I realized that I had been surrounded by very humble people. They had little money; however, they still gave to their families.  I really respected that. I appreciated how much effort they put into working so much, for so little.

That was the moment I realized; I was caught up in the Sydney lifestyle of,  “I NEED TO MAKE A LOT OF MONEY TO BE HAPPY!”

Let’s Do This….

So, I came back to Sydney after this trip and decided that I was going to resign from my position as a travel agent and go back to study.

I wanted to study something meaningful. Something that would enable me to give back! Something that I could make a difference in.

In 2012 I decided to study Community Services and Counselling.

The first year was challenging, it taught me discipline, determination, attention to detail, & how to be present and focused.

By exploring my inner child, inner self, and the relationships and dynamics I had with the people in my life, I had been pushed out of my comfort zone.

I couldn’t believe after 10 years of being out of the study scene, I was sitting with textbooks all around me and I thought,

“Well Let’s Do This!”

 

“Get into these books you asked for this.”

So I did. I never wanted to stop learning…

I was working fulltime with children, as I  studied fulltime. And ONE DAY the SHOCK of a lifetime came to me!

It was July and I was right in the middle of study………

I received a phone call from my best childhood friend in Canada and my sister.

It’s very odd, to receive a call from both together. I immediately knew something was wrong.

They said, “Shawn, we have something to tell you.”

“Ok. I replied, what is it?”

“Mom is getting some tests done and we’re not sure what the tests are about, but we just thought we should let you know…”

“What kind of tests are they?” I asked.

“Well, we don’t know.”

“OK, I wonder why mom hasn’t told me.” You see, even though mom and I were Oceans apart we were very close.

A few days later, Mom and I spoke over the phone and text back and forth.

She told me she was going up north and wouldn’t be available. Okay, I said, “Have fun!”

However, I still wasn’t sure if she was okay as she didn’t seem like herself.

You see my mom was a very bubbly and positive person.

She had said she was working in the garden and she was having all these good times. She said she was fine, so I really didn’t think anything of it.

But still, she wasn’t her usual self. I decided it was time to contact my aunt (mom’s sister). I asked her to please contact mom because I have no idea what’s going on, she’s not herself.

You know I don’t know if it’s a mother-daughter instinct, but I knew something was up.

My mom called me, and she said, “Shawn sit down I have something to tell you.

 “What is it, Mom?” I asked.

She says, “I have cancer.”

My heart dropped, I couldn’t believe it!! Was this actually coming out of her mouth?

“What are you talking about Mom?”

“What do you mean you have cancer? What kind of cancer do you have?”

She replied “It”s stage 4 Melanoma.”

“What are you talking about?” I was totally confused and in shock.

You see, my mom was a very healthy woman and she took care of herself.

When she told me this, it was August 2012.

I looked up STAGE FOUR MALENOMA.

Yes, stage four melanoma is a very aggressive cancer. I spoke to her again and told her I was coming home to Canada to see her; however, mom was very optimistic.

She said to me, “Don’t come home yet, come home when I am better, and we can have a wine together and celebrate.”

I respected her wishes and didn’t do anything for a few more days.

About a week later, I let my aunt know that I was booking a flight to go to my mother.

A few days after booking my flight,  my sister called me in a panic. She said, “Mom’s just been rushed to the hospital, the doctors tell me, that she has only days to live. 🙁

I thought what the hell! I went on fight or flight mode, changed my flights, and resigned from work. I was going to Canada!

I kept repeating to myself, “just do what you must do to get there!”

I had an amazing friend at the time that helped me change my flights and book them on my phone. I didn’t care about the cost, I just put it on my credit card! I just needed to go!

I went on autopilot, got in a taxi to the airport, and didn’t say goodbye to anyone. I called my father and let him know I am going to Canada, Mom’s sick and I don’t know what’s going on!

The whole time I was in the air I cried, and I cried, and I cried and said this is the end. This is the end of Mom’s life and I didn’t even know she was sick; I was hurting…

 

I was so hurt; I was in so much pain and I didn’t know why she didn’t tell me sooner that she was in pain too.

I arrived in Canada and went to the hospital with my sister within 12 hours.

My brave and loving, (at the time 20-year-old) sister, told me to prepare myself for the worse before I saw mom.

So, I walk in and she is lying in the bed with lumps and bumps all over her body. She was a skeleton. She looked so sick and the last time I saw her she was so healthy. It had been two years before we were in California, climbing up streets and hills and we were we’re going on adventures together and having a great time.

To see her like that was a massive shock to the system.

But I held it together for me, I held it together for my sister and I held it together for my family.

We had some laughs in the hospital with family. We thought she was going to get better because the nurses and doctors told us she would. But she was in a lot of pain and she wanted something to help her manage.

That night after seeing mom in the hospital, my sister and I spent time together chatting, you know doing things back at Mom’s house, talking trying to figure things out.

The next morning, we were getting ready to get-go to see her and my uncle calls me and says very directly, “Shawn can you bring mom’s will to the hospital?”

Right OK. I’ll do that.

This time of my life is completely surreal to me, but I went through the motions and did, what I had to do.

So, my sister and I jumped in the car and went to the hospital. We were laughing, we had breakfast together. It was like the good old days and we’re going to see mom today and we thought it was going to be okay.

We hop in the elevator and arrive at mom’s level. The elevator doors opened, we saw our uncle and aunt’s face right there in front of us. It was the look of sadness and death…

We knew she was gone, we felt it with every ounce of our being…

They didn’t even have to say anything! My sister and I embraced them in a hug.

My sister and I asked to see her and  went into the room with the family. Mom’s brothers, sisters and my cousin walked in to pay our respects together. She was just lying there peacefully.

She just left this earth, just like that…

It was a shock.

The year after, I stayed in Canada to be with family and sort out mom’s assets and business affairs.

I thought, what would mom do in my position? It broke my heart, but I did it anyway because I would do anything for family.

I want to leave you with this…

Grief can hit you at any given moment, it’s best that you, LET IT OUT, talk to someone, write, and love yourself.

The biggest thing that I did for the next year or two, was take care of myself.  I ate healthily, moved back to Australia and went back to study.

Life is a rollercoaster ride; you will have ups and downs constantly…

Be prepared for them. You might not know what you’re preparing for…. but just be prepared.

The roller coaster of life is something that everybody goes through and you are not meant to ride alone.

Reach out and ask for help… This is what I am here for…

Heal your wounds, Heal your heart…

Shawn

Awards & Recognition

 Registered Counsellor – Bachelor in Applied Social Science
& Certified Master NLP Practitioner and Time Line Therapist  

Testimonials

What People Are Saying

“A Stunning Professional”

I have known Shawn for close to 15 years and have seen first hand the growth and development she has
experienced as both an individual and as a professional. She is a dedicated, honest and caring person who strives to support her clients, family and friends. I would highly recommend her services.
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Alyson Begbie, Australia

“My Safe Space”

Working with Shawn has been an amazing experience. She shows up to each and every call whith an amazing willingness to suspend personal judgement. She has shown me extreme empathy and compassion that will never be forgotten & she worked really hard to always ensure that I had a Safe Space to be open in.

Kristy Andreadakis, Alabama, United States

“A Curious Communicator”

Shawn is an incredible woman dedicated to learning, growing and empowering others. If you haven’t yet, go now and book your complimentary discovery call with her. You won’t regret a single minute of her unique approach to letting go of grief!

Kirsten Siggins, Toronto, Canada

“Speechless”

I have worked with Shawn since May 2019 and found that her communication skills are very clear, supportive and direct. Shawn is a very honest, genuine and passionate woman who is on a mission to make a difference to empower others. Shawn listens intently and follows through with what she says she is going to do. It has been a pleasure working with her over the last 4 1/2 months.!

Darren, QLD Australia

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